Boredom is commonplace in a relationship, especially if you have been building it for years. This is often the reason for ending the relationship that have been built for a long time.
One of the main causes of boredom is the loss of variation and
surprise in relationship.
In the beginning of a relationship, you and your partner will
use the energy and time to get to know each other’s personalities, thoughts,
At this stage, the couple’s advantages and disadvantages are the
main concern and taken as a consideration in continuing the relationship.
Over time, you and your partner begin to determine which direction this relationship will take. At this moment, the challenge is not to know each other’s personalities, but rather how to maintain the relationship and achieve common goals.
Usually because you already know and understand each other, your
enthusiasm and your partner may recede a little. Well, this is what later
causes you to get bored and the relationship don’t develop or just stop there.
How to beat boredom in your relationship
Reveal it to your partner that at this time you feel bored. That
way, you can exchange ideas and find the right solution.
There are several ways you can get rid of boredom in relationship.
1. Don’t be outdone by busyness
You and your partner are too busy with your respective
activities? If you are not good at maintaining communication, boredom can grow
and spread everywhere. Every now and then, you may just demand time to be with
your partner, as long as you know when it’s right.
Take the time to meet, or even through chat if you are far away
from your partner. At least, in a day you have communicated with your partner.
Take advantage of that time to talk about anything to get closer.
2. Plan activities together
Planning joint activities can be a powerful way to maintain relationship
when you start feeling bored.
You can plan a romantic date, have dinner together, or spend a
weekend by vacation.
3. Repeat activities that were previously done together
Let’s remember, what are the activities that used to make you
closer to your partner? If you and your partner are brought up by the same
hobby, try doing it again.
If your partner likes the dishes you make, invite to cook
together as before. Or, you can also invite your couple to repeat the first
date and recall the things that used to be thrilling.
4. Try to get out of your comfort zone
One of the most effective ways to get rid of boredom is to do
new activities. If you still don’t know what to do, maybe it’s time for you to
get out of your comfort zone.
Invite your partner to do unique things that you never thought
of, such as trying new types of food, doing extreme sports, or riding a
thrilling rollercoaster ride.
Maintaining a relationship is
not impossible even though you are being bored. The key is a good communication
and the ability to understand each other.
These two things will make you
and your partner feel again the spark of love that was extinguished. Good luck!